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Have you figured out if you are a positive or negative person? 

Take an Honest look at yourself

Take an Honest look at yourself

You know how you can tell by approximation if you are a positive or negative person?  Just look around at the people associating with you regularly and ask yourself, “Are they positive or negative?” When you finish in their company have you spoken highly in anticipation of things to come, or did you spend your time bashing the government, the economy, your job and your boss, your current or ex and your life in general? What is the conclusion? Come on be honest!
Negativity is not your friend!  Negativity will kill you.  And in some cases, although you are physically walking around and breathing, spiritually you are already dead.  That “Voice of Criticism” is always working on your mind and your feelings, telling you about all the things you can’t do, and insisting that you will never be successful, no matter what you try to do.  And there are so many things in your life that you have never ventured to try because you already were a failure in your mind.  Isn’t it time to make that “Voice of Criticism” shut up, and to start making a mental turn to believing in yourself and the great things you can do if you would only try?

A mind focused on positive experience, filled with hope and excitement and passion can do unlimited things, exciting things that help not only you, but those around you. When you speak, you bring hope and inspiration. When people see you, they gather because they feel that you may help them laugh and forget some of their own troubles for the moment. So ask yourself, is that your experience when you get around people you know? Do people seek out your company and advice? Or when you show up, do you miss the smile that they don’t return? Or do they excuse themselves because they have many things to do, and they just don’t want to sit around and have time to talk?

If a person likes your company, they will find time to be around you, no matter what it is they have to do that day.
Many of us carry in our head nothing but junk, and that junk is by definition negative. No matter what the day has in store for us, it is not going to be good enough to make us happy. Have you had so many negative experiences that you no longer think life is meant for you to be happy? There is no man or woman good enough for us, so we will remain single. There is no job that can make us satisfied, so we just go on in a miserable job making an income. And these are the thoughts that control your daily activities.

So what do you do? You have to change your mind! You have to turn your negative thinking into positive thinking, and start making your life count for the good instead of the bad. How do you do that? Well, the first thing you do is take note of how you are really thinking on a daily basis, and what thoughts you are feeding within your subconscious that you act upon during the rest of the day. When you are driving down the street, turn off the car radio for a while and examine what you are really thinking over the sound of the music. When you are taking your morning shower, how are you preparing yourself to face the day? Are you angry, bitter, or are you excited, anxious to get out there? These are the moments when you take charge of your thoughts and feed yourself new ideas.
If a census of your thoughts tells you that you are talking yourself into a world of bitterness, then start talking to yourself in a more positive way. You might even take a piece of paper and write some necessary positive thoughts to start your day: “I am a good person.” “I am important to the world around me.” “I can make a great contribution today.” “I am going to be happy today.” I am going to make someone else happy.” You be the author, for only you can decide what thoughts will help you.

Be your own psychoanalyst: Do my thoughts make me happy? Do my thoughts satisfy my heart? Do I help other people with my thoughts, or am I too self-bitter that I can’t help anyone else? Be honest. Only you know if you need to change your thoughts. Only you know how really satisfied you are with life. If you are sitting around crying over some bad thing that happened to you years, or even months ago, or if you are angry because someone hurt you three weeks ago, these thoughts are probably not helping you feel good during the day, nor are they empowering you to achieve your goals, whatever they may be. And if you are mad at yourself because you are facing some big failure, its time to forgive yourself and go on with your life. You have as much right to be on this earth as anyone else.
You know what changed those thoughts of negativity?

Forgiveness!  Forgive yourself for making mistakes, forgive your friends and family for what you think they have done wrong, and start loving them.  Positive action brings the most positive results, and it’s easier than you think.
So get rid of the junk. Get that job that will make you happy. Make peace with your children. Communicate with that spouse and stop being angry. Get yourself a present. Go on a trip. And most of all, believe in yourself, and help someone else believe in themselves as well.
After all, what’s the worst that could possibly happen?  You could fail, or turn out to be wrong, but haven’t you been there before?  And just possibly this is the time that it will work!

Isn’t It Time to Make Your Life Work to Your Advantage?

Decide Who You Are and What You Want!

Decide Who You Are and What You Want!

The greatest enemy to living in the moment and making things work for you is the perception of the past and the future, combined with assumptions that form in our mind as factual reality, but never actually occur.
So many of us are bogged down by the bad things that have happened to us, and our mind set is that we remain a victim to those things that happened. You are only a victim as long as you allow yourself to be, or even worse, as long as you make yourself one. There are people who revel in being a victim, because that’s all they’ve ever known, they are comfortable in their habits, and they have committed their lives to staying there as long as they live.
Don’t be one of those people. Don’t be stuck milling over a painful world that you went through, and therefore have no future.

And the other great enemy of your happiness is what can happen in the future but never does. Some people live their lives dreaming of what might be, that never comes. There are people who are living for the day they win that lottery, and every night they sit in front of the TV with great anticipation hoping that their numbers will come in, while their bills continue to stack up. There is nothing wrong with playing the lottery, but meanwhile, getting a job that will pay your bills is far more pragmatic.

Living must be an active process, and if you don’t keep up with it, it will take you over. Living is growing, changing, circulating your vitals and finding new worlds while you change the old ones. Living is actively getting off your butt and into the mess, learning, moving, becoming a force in yourself instead of being taken over by it.  Sit in that miserable job for years and accept that comfortable paycheck and one day you realize that life has passed you by. Stay in that miserable marriage without doing something about it and one day you realize that life is passing you by. Time waits for no man, and as time goes by, you suddenly see that you have wasted what could have been active choices and abundant living. You are only given your life once, and that’s why today is called “the present.” Take your present, unwrap it, and enjoy it.

There is only one way to overcome the inheritance of a bad past or the hopeless end of a future that never comes, and that is to live in the “Now”, to enjoy the present in all its glory. In fact, it is only by living in the present that you have any power to make your life and the lives of those around you better. If you live in the past, you live in a world that no longer exists, except that you are giving the past power that it never had over you to suddenly be alive again by reliving it, making you and everyone around you miserable again with whatever it was that happened that makes you so unhappy.

And if you live in the future, you definitely live in a world that doesn’t exist, and who knows what is going to happen then, although you can be pretty certain that it will not be what you think.
Living in the present gives you power to do something about your life and the lives of others around you. You can activate choice, and you can do it immediately. You can chose to motivate yourself, to move out into that cruel world and make it better. If you need to get a better job, now is the time. If you need to love your kids, now is the time. If you need to get a better understanding of God, now is the time. If you need to make amends with some of your friends, now is the time. If you need to enjoy their company, now is the time. If that car needs fixing, now is the time. If you need a better place to live, now is the time. If you need to get out of that unhappy relationship, now is the time. You are not going to live forever. In fact, the only thing you know for sure is that you are living right now. So start living!

What are you waiting for? To win the lottery? Are you waiting for your children to grow up and get out of the house? Are you waiting for more money to fall from the sky, or for the moment when you will finally leave some poor memories behind, or for Prince Charming to come along on his horse and scoop you up and take you to his castle? Well, it’s not going to happen until you make it happen.
So make it happen!

Stop whatever it is you’re doing for a moment and listen to the wind against the trees. See how they sway, how they enjoy the breeze, how they take in every moment without worry and enjoy their existence. Look at the clouds and see their glory: They revel in their existence. Listen to the people around you that are within earshot: Those are the people you need to interact with right now, those are the people who may need your help or vice versa! Help them. Stop thinking about how you were such a victim in the past. Get into the present and grab your time. Don’t worry about what problems you might face in the future. Instead, take the Power of Now and influence that future to be in your favor by the choices you make today, right now.

The greatest power of the present is its ability to influence the future by the choices you make today. Like Nike’s famous slogan Just Do It! Decide what you want to do, what you need to do, and do it, NOW!

Learning from Foolish Mistakes

As the eagle catches the snake

As the eagle catches the snake

You got to be kidding me! Don’t tell me you made another stupid mistake?!  What is the matter with you? Didn’t you learn from the last time you did something this stupid?

Sounds familiar? If it does, you should keep in mind that we all make mistakes.  Edison made 1001 attempts by his own counting before he invented the light bulb, but thank God he kept trying, or we’d all be in the dark right now.  Walt Disney declared bankruptcy more than once, but if he hadn’t gone on, in spite of himself, Mickey would be starving in the street instead of living in that lavish palace of his.  Babe Ruth struck out many more times than he hit home runs, and everybody thought he was “bats” until he turned it towards his advantage (Sorry…couldn’t resist that one).  And you too will fail, again and again.  But the secret to success is forgiving yourself and to keep trying.

Some of these famous predecessors  have demonstrated that we only have failed, when we quit. If you cannot make a successful decision, then every aspect of your behavior is affected. Emotionally, you are hurting inside and not at all aware of how to stop that inner storm. Outside, you attempt to seem like everything is okay, and you are stable and calm, making your inner storm even greater, because you are living your own personal lie. Let me make an attempt to help you out of some of this storm.

Perhaps some of these suggestions will bring you enough calm to get back on the path of making successful decisions that can turn your life around. Before we even begin the decision process, you have to be aware of who you are and where you are going. Millions of people have no idea who they are or why they are here. So many of us wander in mental oblivion, making wrong decisions and watching our world crumble before our eyes, and not even knowing why.

If you need statistics, all you have to do is examine the number of divorces in your county (approximately 2 out of 3 marriages end in divorce), number of murders in the past six months, assaults by juvenile delinquents who are being brought up by confused parents who have no idea how to raise their children, theft and robberies, war, and I could go on and on, and so could you. And of course, the results reveal that all of this is unsuccessful decision making. A simple examination of who you are and why you are making wrong decisions could turn this troubling trend around in no time, and sometimes the solution is no further than a simple change of your mind.

You must match your goals to the decision you are making, determining first if your goal is worthwhile, and then why there are problems that need decisions because of the activity that is bringing you to your goals. And now you are ready to deal with the problem by going through the decision process. Expert decision makers can go through this process quickly and solve many problems, both theirs and others, and they become known for their wisdom. Too many people rely on impulse or intuition to make their decisions, which ultimately causes us to experience divorce, or delinquency, or war. And many besides just the decision makers live with the consequences.

If we walk before we run, if we slow ourselves down to determine the good and bad of what we are about to do, and why we are about to do it, then we can greatly improve our activity and the quality of our life. Now you are ready to begin the Decision-making Process. And just because you have done the research, you still have to supply the input as to what is better or worse for the decision-making process. You must honestly ask questions objectively and see where your research takes you.

Maybe you have a talent for math, but you still hate the idea of being an accountant. You have to pay attention to yourself and the advantages as well as the disadvantage to make your decisions properly. Sometimes a “best choice” is temporary, depending on the circumstances, and that means that the choice will only work for a period of time. There are very few permanent decisions. In fact, believing that a decision is permanent is usually fatal. Getting married and assuming marriage is going to be permanent no matter what, is almost always fatal. We can lose it if we don’t make the decision to refresh our marriage every day. Every new day of our job needs to be refreshing, and any relationship without fresh decisions is almost always fatal. There are short term goals and long term goals, and we must identify which is which, and how each applies to our situation, or situations, as the case may be. Each plan, each decision, is simply a starting point for living right, for making proper decisions, for making your life what you want it to be. Be creative: Search your options and make a decision. Change them as they need to be refreshed, and learn to live happy and in the wisdom of making right and proper decisions.

He who does not pay attention to his personal history and the lessons to be learned from his own experience will be forced to repeat it. And last but not least, learn from those who have gone before us, even if they have already passed away. They also went through a life of experiences, of trials and tribulations, often forced by the same experiences of having made the obvious mistakes.

Everyone is Afraid of Something

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What is your biggest Fear?

We all fear something, even though sometimes exactly what we’re afraid of, stays in hiding, because we live in a society that manages to paint over the emotions of fear. We also seem to fear the anticipation of the unknown, like the current snow weather alert here in North Florida, that keeps thousands in house because of fear to drive.

Look at that apparently self-assured man in a nice suit going to work.  And see that mom struggling to keep her four kids nearby so they don’t get lost?  And this may surprise you, but the same fears that you felt fall upon you this morning as you were getting dressed are the same fears inside these people about to face the challenges of the day.

We are all afraid of something, and most of the time, it is something that hides in the dark crevices of our mind of which we normally never reveal. But the fact is, most of us are afraid daily of many things. People you may meet on a daily basis are far more afraid of life and its personal dangers than what you would presume, and you would be very surprised if you knew what it was that plagues them. Would you be surprised to know that the greatest fear is Public Speaking? And that most everybody is afraid of the dark?

We all have things we fear. And when that fear takes over, it is demoralizing, paralyzing, and waiting for us to fail. Fear has kept us from so many of our successes, and to this day causes many to not see what they could enjoy if they were not afraid. And usually their greatest fear is failure. So many dreams and plans have been spoiled or not even ventured simply because we are afraid to get out there and find or even build whatever it takes to make our dreams come true. It destroys our own security and distinctly refuses to allow us the experience of going into newfound places and/or the meeting of new people with ideas different from our own.

Fantastic opportunities available to all of us get destroyed or even ignored simply because we have developed a fear, sometimes because of our experience, or our disappointment, or because we have been lied to, cheated, or just ignored.

Fear paralyzes our movement, and certainly kills our desire to try something new. And what is even worse, somebody takes the opportunity that you had offered to you because you refused to go into that area and try it yourself because you were afraid. But the problem of your fear doesn’t just fade with the loss of opportunity. It leaves residuals that you have not been prepared to deal with, like rejection and anger and bitterness. You are mad at yourself, and sometimes you even turn that anger on to the rest of the world, making you angry with the world and the way it has treated you. Or sometimes you will turn everything inward, angry and bitter, and refusing to leave the house or venture in a new opportunity that just might bring you more happiness, you instead sit in your anger and disappointment, and it shows in your future endeavors. You refuse it because it’s risky, or might hurt you in some way. You would rather stay safe and rejected, often that very rejection coming from yourself.

Often this path is the path that we most choose, a life without risk, a path of security. You hate the job, but you will stay there for 40 years because they offer a retirement plan that you can use in your final years, if you reach that stage. You never meet the man or woman of your dreams because you refuse to experience the rejection of talking to some one new. The levels of happiness you reach are slight, but at least you ponder they are without risk. So what does it take to overcome such fear and to make yourself a success?

Well, one suggestion would be to search your inner heart, the being in the part of you that no one else knows, and you learn whatever it is that you dream and really want. And if the dream is healthy and meaningful, and could make you happy, then you make it come true, no matter what the risk. You move in directions that only appear when you bring your dream into existence, and you follow those road maps within you until you get some kind of success.

Afraid to take the steps? Then start with some small ones. You don’t have to do everything all at once. Ask for advice as you carefully try to get closer to whatever dreams you have. And when you have finally accomplished what you want, when you have finally seen some success, whether it be in a significant relationship, or the way you raise your kids, or your dream job, or even just your dream vacation, you will find that a small success burns into your life a bigger one, and the bigger they get, the more success you will experience. Don’t let fear paralyze you.

Dream, and then make it happen. The risk will be worth it. And remember, you’re not the only one that is afraid: We all are afraid.

(Get his newest book, “If Life Is A Grocery Store, I Need Better Coupons!” by Dr. Keith Johnson at Amazon.com)

There is Great Value in Pacing Yourself

The depth of time disappears in spiral circles

The depth of time disappears in clockwise spiral circles

I sit inside my rocker and feel wind upon my face,

I know within an hour I begin a hectic pace

of problems and contentions, of anger and array,

of the many personalities presented to me every day.

Yet now the time is peaceful, the presence is so dark.

Soon upon my very crevice a new days’ sun will embark.

My mind prepares for battle; My heart seeks to try the stretch,

my talents coil in awareness, conflicting duties will now fetch.

I ponder dreams forgotten, I seek to bury past

in a present touch of whirlwind where my life has now been cast.

Yet I cannot see the tempest, and I do not feel the fates

of whirlwind opposing virtue, of the conflict at the gates,

for I feel a peace within me, a very calming of the soul,

even with the stroking awareness that today’s life will take its toll,

for I do not feel alone in this battle and this strife,

but a calling, reason, purpose, of a meaning to this life.

I am asked to heed and listen, to make a difference in this world,

to overcome my own desires and slow troubles yet unfurled.

Within a couple hours I will take the chains of right

and shackle many problems that right now are out of sight.

Already in my mind are my prayers that beg for strength,

for courage, hope and victory, when fear seems so at length.

Will I make the right decisions? Will I stand in my own way?

Will I face the tribulation? Am I up to facing the frey?

But for now the tempest is stilled. At the present I can see

that nature still is willing to offer all of its’ best to me,

for I see a bird fly high above, a squirrel climbs up a tree,

A duck waddles up. I give her some bread. Somehow she understands me.

And the wind speaks to my heart as it rustles through the trees,

and says, “Be still for this moment. The best is yet to be.”

There is no doubt that in many moments I face conflict galore,

where people bring their troubles, and solving them becomes our chore.

But for the minute that I sit here I see calm on God’s Great Earth,

and I know that what I feel right now is calm and peace and worth.

We all are taken care of, our problems are so minute.

Our plans so minscule, compared to the grass growing under foot.

Such a giant universe, so filled with love and care,

intricately planned, such a privilege just to be here.

And life is oh so short on this earth that we call home.

To get lost in our silly problems is to make our purpose roam.

So I sit here in my rocker knowing soon I face the day,

but for now I rest and feel the wind and let nature have her say.

I will not be here long; I now know to love my presence

in a universe well planned and brought to give me all some essence

of a thankful being with one more day to offer up a prayer

of thanks and love and service; For now I rock here in my chair.

(Watch FOCUS ON JACKSONVILLE hosted by Dr. Keith Johnson on COMCAST TV Channel 99 every Wednesday at 5:30 PM)

Being Kind Does Not Cost a Penny

For starters, here is an idea list for Acts of Kindness

The teacher went to the board at the front of the room and wrote the question, “What does it mean to be kind?” The assignment then given by the teacher was for each student to write a short essay on the question. As the students began to think and then write, I noticed one little girl continued to think, and she seemed to be running out of time to write. I also noticed the expression on her face was anything but pleasant.

Finally that same little girl raised her hand, still having written nothing. The teacher acknowledged her raised hand, anticipating that perhaps the little girl wanted to be excused to use the rest room. Maybe she wasn’t feeling well. But instead, the little girl asked, “What does kind mean?” Taken aback a bit by the innocence of the question, the teacher replied, “Well, to be kind is to help someone, often without being asked to help, to meet a need, to offer some kind of hope when there is none.” I could tell that even in the answer that the teacher had offered, she wasn’t sure her comments were really sufficient to answering the question. The little girl retorted with, “I don’t understand.”  The teacher replied: “Do you mean, you don’t understand the question, or you don’t understand my answer.”

I wasn’t certain whether her attempt was to be either sarcastic or disrespectful, but as I watched the little girl, I began to realize she really was asking a sincere question, and responding honestly. “Both!” the little girl answered loudly. The girl was so insistent that she didn’t understand the word “kind” that she never did write anything on her paper while I was there. And a discussion with the teacher later reassured me that the little girl really didn’t understand what the word “kind” meant, especially in a pragmatic sense.

Could it be that this young lady in the sixth grade had never encountered an act of kindness? And if she had never encountered such an act, how could she return what she had never been offered? How does one learn kindness? I would expect first and foremost kindness must be shown to those who would learn it.

Kindness is not just something that you do, it is something you offer after you have been taught, and I would presuppose mostly by example, found in the attitude of someone whop is truly kind in heart and intention. And since this little girl did not understand the definition of kindness, nor could she come up with anything to write about kindness on her school assignments, I would suppose that the parents were evidently not terribly kind, and certainly not teaching their children the meaning of kindness, which probably comes most often by example.

When was the last time you went out of your way to be kind to someone less fortunate than yourself? Who has learned the act of kindness from your example? Do you know what it means to be kind? Have you made certain that your children understand the meaning of kindness? What a different world this would be if everyone were kind.

It would seem to me that in all things we are required more than anything else to be kind first. No matter how badly someone hurts you or how offended by someone you might be, isn’t the wisest road of action always to be kind first, even in dealing with some of the worst situations. So many people are wounded, hurting, not knowing why life has treated them the way it does, and only seek a kind word from someone who can ease some of the pain.

No matter how offensive someone is, the best defense is always kindness. Being kind is not always easy, but it is never put under repute, as is anger and fear and hostility. “Be ye kind, one to another.” Is not just a suggestion. It is a command. And in doing so, we give an example to those who are watching us that often reverberates into their life and action, simply because they first saw the kindness coming from you.

Kindness is contagious.  Be kind, and in showing kindness, you bring an example that is followed by many who saw your kindness, and they too begin to share the kindness that they have seen you activate. And the activation of kindness can stop wars.
“Love is Kind.” (I Corinthians 13:4)

Better Decisions for a New Year

Prepare yourself to make better decisions in 2014

Welcome, Willkommen, Bienvenu 2014.  Never thought you would make it, but here we are.  And it’s time for better decisions for a New Year!

Millions of people have no idea who they are or why they are here. So many of us wander in mental oblivion, making wrong decisions and watching our world crumble before our eyes, and not even knowing why. If you need statistics, all you have to do is examine the number of divorces in your county (approximately 2 out of 3 marriages end in divorce), number of murders in the past six months, assaults by juvenile delinquents who are being brought up by confused parents who have no idea how to raise their children, theft and robberies, war, and I could go on and on, and so could you. No one who gets married expects a divorce.  No one who gives birth expects their child to be a delinquent.  So what is the problem?  It is the refusal through trial and error to make decisions and learn from our wrong decisions how to make and perform the right choice.  And of course, the results reveal that all of this is unsuccessful decision making. A simple examination of who you are and why you are making wrong decisions could turn this troubling trend around in no time, and sometimes the solution is no further than a simple change of your mind.

One of our biggest problems is that we assume everything is going to turn out all right without any planning or making of definite decisions that affect our future and the future of those who depend on us.  The essence of Critical Living is making decisions, and too many of us think that we can avoid these decisions, simply because we do not have the courage to say “Yes” or “No.”  It’s time for us to step up to the plate and take our personal swing at the ball.

Before you even begin to wrestle with the process of making successful decisions, you need to understand your goals. What do you want to accomplish? Where are you trying to go? It is your goal that will determine your behavior, and if your goal is wrong, is it possible that you need to change your goal? And you spend your time and your life at the place that you have targeted as a goal.

If your goal is to rob a bank, (don’t be stupid!) you may spend a lot of time at that bank studying the activity so you know how to rob it. If your desire is to get a college degree, you will spend a lot of time at the college getting the credits that make it possible to get your degree. If your goal is to get a significant other, you will spend time getting to know the person in which you find an interest. Whatever your goal determines your behavior. If you have not clarified your goal, then you are wandering in a world of personal emptiness, uncertain what target you are supposed to hit.  And like a boat without a rudder, you wander in a mindless sea.  At least if you made a wrong decision, you could learn from it and get direction.  Most of us have no personal direction.  Go to work; go home; eat supper; watch TV; go to bed.  No goals, no reason to live.  If you don’t make a comprehensive plan to make more money than you are making right now, you will make the same amount or less than what you are presently making.

Don’t you want to do better next year?  Don’t you need a plan?

You must match your goals to the decision you are making, determining first if your goal is worthwhile, and then why there are problems that need decisions because of the activity that is bringing you to your goals. And now you are ready to deal with the problem by going through the decision process.  Expert decision makers can go through this process quickly and solve many problems, both theirs and others, and they become known for their wisdom. Too many people rely on impulse or intuition to make their decisions, which ultimately causes us to experience divorce, or delinquency, or war. And many besides just the decision makers live with the consequences. If we walk before we run, if we slow ourselves down to determine the good and bad of what we are about to do, and why we are about to do it, then we can greatly improve our activity and the quality of our life. Now you are ready to begin the Decision-making Process.

What do you want to do, and why is it causing you problems? Why is there a decision necessary, and what methods are you going to take to get there? Do you want a significant other? Do you want more romance? Do you want a close friendship, or more social life? Are you unhappy with your job? Would a raise in pay solve that problem, and if you determine that such is the case, what are you doing to make certain you deserve a raise? Are you using your talents, and why or why not? Where is your passion? Where are you unhappy and why do you need to make a decision in the first place? These basic questions are all decisions that must be made in the midst of problems that you face, and if you are not asking these questions, you are riding on your impulse alone, and though that may work sometimes, it will more often make you perplexed and frustrated. There are many ways to define a problem that you probably have not ventured, and the more specific you become about the problem, the more accurate you will be in making a proper decision to eliminate the problem.

And part of your success is based in the morality of the decision you are trying to make.  Experience has probably already told you that there is always more than one way to solve a problem, and not all of these routes are right or healthy. If you are poor, there are many ways that you can try to get rich, but some of the decisions many people make to get their newfound money are neither healthy nor morally right. And one of the greatest ways to help you make a decision is to study your own passions and desires, and to understand where your talents want to take you. If you follow your passion, you will be doing what you want, and what your own life is saying to your psyche. College Students that come to me wanting to know what College Major they should study to get a degree always hear me ask the most important question: “What do your talents tell you about yourself?” If you are poor in math, you shouldn’t be an accountant. If you have an excellent singing voice, and you enjoy singing, you should consider making a living with your talent, whatever it is.

Are you making a properly balanced choice that will guide your life because you are educated in your possible solutions, or are you just taking a guess and a gamble and seeing what happens? If I ask you, “What are your talents?” do you have an educated answer? If there is a career that you want to pursue, do you know what education is required so that you can get that career? If as a parent you are having trouble raising your child, have you ever gone to a seminar on Parent-training skills? Are you aware of the education available to help you become a better parent? These solutions need to be researched. If you are not doing your homework, you’re going to fail the test of life.

And just because you have done the research, you still have to supply the input as to what is better or worse for the decision-making process. You must honestly ask questions objectively and see where your research takes you. Maybe you have a talent for math, but you still hate the idea of being an accountant. You have to pay attention to yourself and the advantages as well as the personal disadvantages to make your decisions properly.

Sometimes even a “best choice” is temporary, depending on the circumstances, and that means that the choice will only work for a period of time. There are very few permanent decisions. In fact, believing that a decision is permanent is usually fatal. Getting married and assuming marriage is going to be permanent no matter what is almost always fatal. We can lose it if we don’t make the decision to refresh our marriage every day. Every new day of our job needs to be refreshing, and any relationship without fresh decisions is almost always fatal.

There are short term goals and long term goals, and we must identify which is which, and how each applies to our situation, or situations, as the case may be. Each plan, each decision, is simply a starting point for living right, for making proper decisions, for making your life what you want it to be.

Be creative: Search your options and make a decision. Change them as they need to be refreshed, and learn to live happy and in the wisdom of making right and proper decisions.
And have a great new year.

Why Everybody loves Christmas!!

the library christmas tree

This Library Christmas Tree Should Take me through a year of Reading

It is said that Everybody loves Christmas. Some of that comes from the surprise of the presents we get. Some of it comes from the togetherness with family and friends and some of it comes from the cozy atmosphere created in TV commercials and store windows.  But most of all it comes from a special spirit that envelopes us and makes Christmas so much as cherish all the presents and surprises, or so one would hope.

We all love presence, yet we don’t always like what is happening to us in the present. In the here and now. That may be a mistake. Your present time, your presence, is a gift to enjoy and make it last for the time that it is given. We should all be grateful that we are alive and given the opportunity to make the world a better place, Leave a lasting positive mark. So far this year no one went further with the spirit of surprising, than the good folks at WestJet Airlines as you can see in this video.

The greatest enemy to living in the moment and making things work for you are the memories of the past and the lingering hopes for the future, and things that happen in our mind that never actually occur. So many of us are bogged down by the bad things that have happened to us, and our mind set is that we remain a victim to those things that happened. You are only a victim as long as you allow yourself to be, or even worse, as long as you make yourself one.

There are people who revel in being a victim, because that’s all they’ve ever known, they are comfortable in their habits, and they have committed their lives to staying in misery as long as they live. Don’t be one of those people. Don’t be stuck milling over a painful world that you went through, and therefore have no future. And the other great enemy of your happiness is what can happen in the future. Some people live their lives dreaming of what might be that never comes. There are people who are living for the day they win that lottery, and every night they sit in front of the TV with great anticipation hoping that their numbers will come in, while their bills continue to mount. There is nothing wrong with playing the lottery, but meanwhile, getting a good job that will pay your bills is far more pragmatic.

Living must be an active process, and if you don’t keep up with it, it will take you down. Living is growing, changing, circulating your vitals and finding new worlds while you change the old ones. Living is actively getting off your butt and into the mess, learning, moving, becoming a force in yourself instead of being taken over by it.  Sit in that miserable job for years and accept that comfortable paycheck and one day you realize that life has passed you by. Stay in that miserable marriage without doing something about it and one day you realize that life is passing you by. Time waits for no man, and as time goes by, you suddenly see that you have wasted what could have been active choices and abundant living. You are only given your life once, and that’s why today is called “the present.” Take your present, unwrap it and enjoy it.

There is only one way to overcome the inheritance of a bad past or the hopeless end of a future that never comes, and that is to live in the “Now”, to enjoy the present in all its glory. In fact, it is only by living in the present that you have any power to make your life and the lives of those around you better. If you live in the past, you live in a world that no longer exists, except that you are giving the past power that it never had over you. By reliving it, it makes you and everyone around you miserable again with whatever it was that happened then, that makes you so unhappy. And if you live in the future, you definitely live in a world that doesn’t exist, and who knows what is going to happen then, although you can be pretty certain that it will not be what you think.

Living in the present gives you power to do something about your life and the lives of others around you. You can activate choice, and you can do it immediately. You can chose to motivate yourself, to move out into that cruel world and make it better. If you need to get a better job, now is the time. If you need to love your kids, now is the time. If you need to get a better understanding of life, now is the time. If you need to make amends with some of your friends, now is the time. If you need to enjoy their company, now is the time. If that car needs fixing, now is the time. If you need a better place to live, now is the time. If you need to get out of that unhappy relationship, now is the time. You are not going to live forever. In fact, the only thing you know for sure is that you are living right now. So start living!

What are you waiting for? To win the lottery? Are you waiting for your children to get better? Are you waiting for more money to fall from out of the sky, or for the moment when you will finally forget some poor memories, or for Prince Charming to come along on his horse and scoop you up and take you to his castle? Well, it’s not going to happen until you make it happen.

So make it happen! Stop whatever it is you’re doing for a moment and listen to the wind in the trees. Watch how they sway, how they enjoy the breeze, how they take in every moment without worry and enjoy their existence. Look at the clouds and see their glory: They revel in their existence. Listen to the people around you that are within earshot: Those are the people you need to interact with right now, those are the people who need your help or maybe just attention! Help them. Stop thinking about how you were such a victim in the past. Get into the present and grab your time. Don’t worry about what problems you might face in the future. Instead, take the Power of Now and influence that future to be in your favor by the choices you make today, right now. The greatest power of the present is its ability to influence the future by the choices you make today. So get into the present and decide what you want to do, what you need to do, and do it, NOW

Time is here and now

Clouds constantly change their appearance as they move across the sky

“And then one day you find, ten years have got behind you, no one told you when to run, you missed the starting gun.”

This famous line comes from a well-known Pink Floyd song titled TIME.

Even more than in the 1970s when PinkFloyd wrote these lyrics, people have forgotten that time, and living in the present, is a gift from God to enjoy and make it what you want.  We should all be grateful that we are alive, and are given the opportunity to make the world a better place.

The greatest enemy to living in the moment and making things work for you is pre-occupation with the past and the future, wasting time on scenarios that only happen in our mind and in fact never materialize and actually occur.

So many of us are boggled down by the bad things that have happened to us, and our mind set is that we remain a victim to those things that happened. But really, you are only a victim as long as you allow yourself to be, or even worse, as long as you make yourself one.

There are people who revel in being a victim, because that’s all they’ve ever known. They are comfortable in their habits, and they seem to have committed their lives to staying there as long as they live. Don’t be one of those people. Don’t be stuck milling over a painful world that you went through, and therefore have no future.

The other great enemy of your happiness is what can happen in the future. Some people live their lives dreaming of what might be that never comes. There are people who are living for the day they win that lottery, and every night they sit in front of the TV with great anticipation hoping that their numbers will come in, as their bills continue to mount. There is nothing wrong with playing the lottery, but meanwhile, getting a good job that will pay your bills is far more pragmatic.

Living is meant to be an active process, and if you don’t keep up with it, it will take the direction away from you. Living is growing, changing, circulating your vitals and finding new worlds while you change the old ones. Living is actively getting off your butt and participate into the mess, learning, moving, becoming a force in yourself instead of being taken over by it.  Sit in that miserable job for years and accept that comfortable paycheck and one day you realize that life has passed you by. Stay in that miserable marriage without doing something about it and one day you realize that life is passing you by. Time waits for no man, and as time goes by, you suddenly see that you have wasted what could have been active choices and abundant living.

You are only given your life once, and that’s why today is called “the present.” Take your present, unwrap it, and enjoy it.

There is only one way to overcome the inheritance of a bad past or the hopeless end of a future that never comes, and that is to live in the “Now”, to enjoy the present in all its glory. In fact, it is only by living in the present that you have any power to make your life and the lives of those around you better.

Living in the present gives you power to do something about your life and the lives of others around you. You can activate choice, and you can do it immediately. You can chose to motivate yourself, to move out into that ‘cruel’ world and make it better. If you need to get a better job, now is the time. If you need to love your kids, now is the time. If you need to get a better understanding of God and the Universe, now is the time. If you need to make amends with a friend or a loved one, now is the time. If you want to enjoy their company, now is the time. If that car needs fixing, now is the time. If you desire a better place to live, now is the time. If you wish to get out of that unhappy relationship, now is the time. You are not going to live forever. In fact, the only thing you know for sure is that you are going to die.

So start living!

What are you waiting for? To win the lottery? Are you waiting for your children to get nicer? Are you waiting for Prince Charming to magically appear on his horse and scoop you up and take you to his castle? Well, here is a truth; nothing is not going to happen until you make it happen.

So make it happen! Stop whatever it is you’re doing for a moment and listen to the wind singing in the leaves on the trees. See how the branches sway, how they enjoy the breeze, how they take in every moment without worry and enjoy their existence. Look at the clouds and see their glory. They revel in their existence as their shape changes in front of your eyes while moving across the sky. Listen to the people around you that are within earshot: Those are the people you need to interact with right now, those are the people who need your help! Help them. Stop the drama of your past and dreaming of the future. Get into the present and grab your time and don’t worry about what problems you might face in the future. Take the Power of Now and influence that future to be shaped and sculptured in your favor by the choices you make today, right now. The greatest power of the present is its ability to influence the future by the choices you make today. So decide what you want to do, what you need to do, prepare for it as best as you can and do it, NOW.

You’d Better Get to Know Me Soon

when you're rich, you have lots of friends.

When I'm rich I will have lots of friends...so hurry

You had better get to know me now, because I’m about to become super rich, and will be the most popular person in this city, yea, even this state, and perhaps…anyway, you get the idea. And I’m going first class with everything, the best iPad, the best car and home…Nothing is going to stop me now, thanks to this strange quirk of luck. And to think that this morning I was just a normal, average poor person.

It happened when I opened my email even before brushing my teeth and got a special and urgent note from Ahil Mujsein. I immediately knew that it was from overseas when I read the greeting: “Assalamu ‘Alaikum.” What could be more authentic than that? That’s some kind of greeting for “hello.” I knew it was special when it said it was just for me (It had my name on it.)

The story in a nutshell. It seems that there was a banker who died at his desk, and he happened to have my same name (Imagine that!!). This kind person was contacting me to show how I could call the bank using his name (which is also my own) and the bank will give me millions of dollars that they had officially given to the banker before he died.

At first I decided not to read the rest of the email in case it was a hoax, but my heart caught the writer’s pain when he explained to me that his mother was very sick and I needed to get the money before she took a turn for the worse. To make matters even ‘badder’, his brother had been run over by a truck and his father had just lost all of his money in Las Vegas, and so he was about to be kicked out of his home.

Eventually I got up the nerve to ask a question in a return email: “Didn’t your brother see the truck coming at him? ” Of course not.” the writer answered, “If he had, he wouldn’t have gotten run over.” That made sense to me, so now I am busy putting all my personal information on an email that I will send to my new found benefactor, including bank accounts, social security and driver’s license numbers, which he needs to turn over to the bank so that they will release the money to me. And Mother of All That is Fair: all he is asking for all this trouble is 60% of any monies that I collect.

I’m going to be rich!

And talk about unbelievable luck, someone just rang my doorbell, and lo and behold, it was the Publisher’s Clearing House telling me that if I signed up for 3 magazines immediately, I would be put on a list and probably receive millions of dollars delivered by their truck, just like they show on TV.

I feel so lucky I’m going to send Oprah a request to be a member of her audience for “Her Favorite Things.” You had better get to know me now, because I’m about to get a lot of money and become real famous.

Facing pain head on

Spiritual Desperation comes from pain in my heart

Spiritual Desperation comes from pain in my heart

Are you devastated by a broken relationship? Do you sometimes wish to be a hermit, away from human judgements?  Are you hurting from a broken heart?

Some of us deal better with life’s desperations than others. There are parts of life that we cannot avoid, and some people seem more susceptible to these than others. There are certainly some people who laugh more, cry more, and inevitably, hurt more. Often a hurt relationship cannot be healed. It is in times like those that I encourage you to learn to get rid of the emotional garbage and move on. Now I know, as well as anyone that this is easier said than done, and therefore I want to make a few suggestions as to ways of doing just that.

Dealing with a bruised relationship usually hurts, and sometimes it’s the deepest hurt of all. There are many times when someone has sat across my desk and cried or placed their troubles into my ear over the phone, and I wished I could just reach into their lives in some way and pull the pain out of their heart. But solving a problem just doesn’t work that way, and it’s probably a good thing that it doesn’t. There are often reason for the pain. There are things to learn that through the struggle make us stronger, wiser than we may want to be, and able to face newer situations in maybe a brighter light, if we pay attention to the lessons learned from the pain. How many times I have been told that the person talking to me would do anything to get rid of the hurt; and yet it is the hurt that teaches us the foolishness of our own ways, and helps to make us wiser to the choices of our own future.

I know this from first-hand experience. In notable times of my success in both business and ministry, there were times when I made very foolish mistakes. And what I didn’t realize at the time was the more notoriety I enjoyed through business success, the harder was the fall when I made a mistake. And the more people that know about your mistake, the more people take your mistakes out of proportion and context and make up stories of things that never happened, because the human ego says: The bigger his mistake, the smaller my mistakes.

I have learned this the hard way, and not just once, in dealing with deacons in a church as a pastor, with customers during formal business operations, in personal relationships, and even family conflicts.

At one time I was bearing the shame of public ridicule for a mistake I made when I was pastoring a small church, and was well known in the community. I was driving home from teaching a class, when I suddenly heard on the radio my name mentioned, and learned that I had become the topic of a local talk show, with my mistakes being accentuated at my expense. And the things I heard said about me I could not believe, because my mistake had been blown out of proportion. So shocked was I at the lies coming at me over the radio waves that I pulled the car off the road and to sit and listen to this discussion about me, but without me. Of course this discussion hurt me, especially the lies which I had no defense again. Truth was mixed with lies, but no one in that radio station knew how wrong I had been, more than myself.

Of course I weighed my options. I could call the station and scream for equal time; I could sue them in court; I could give up and cry the rest of my life. But instead  I determined then and there to make right the problems I was responsible for creating, and then to take the hurt I was experiencing and turn it into a lesson.

For the rest of my life since I have been grateful to that radio station and the experience of that talk show shock for making me stronger, for choosing compassion to help me in making the right choices, and for being able to share the experience with others in the hope that both my disappointments and better choices would make them stronger as they go through life. I would make things right, accept the consequence, and move on to better things. I even turned off the radio before the discussion was over. Let them talk; I had things to accomplish.

Now maybe your hurt is more or less dramatic, and maybe you are not in the public limelight like I was then. But you do have your own audience, in your family, your friends, and your business associates. And no matter what your public status, I’m sure your hurt is as great as mine was, when you are treated falsely, your motives are questioned and your decisions are faulted.

Now please read this very carefully: I am grateful for every ounce of pain I felt during that time of personal rebuilding, because I would not be the person I am today were it not for the pain I felt during that time of trial, and I would not have my history be any different. I was out there trying. Yes, I had made mistakes, but I was on the battlefield, and I have never retreated except to reload. Life is a battle, and there will be scars, but the last thing you and I need to do is resign from the battlefield. The pain you experience from your hurt relationship is a gift! It is trying to teach you something, and this is the time to learn its lesson, whatever it is.

Sometimes the lesson is not clear for years, but when you can finally analyze its benefits without the initial emotion, you will see the lesson clearly. And you are the better for it, if you are paying attention with your heart.

You don’t want the pain to leave too soon: It is slowly trying to teach you things about yourself and the people around you. Those things that hurt you, those things that offend you the most, are the things that teach you who you are and where you need to change and grow. Your hurt will awaken in you a desire and need to change, and give you the motivation to act towards life in ways that you would never sensitize yourself if it were not for the hurt. I have seen people who in their success have never experienced any hurt or problem yet, and those people can be both cocky and unreachable. You don’t want to be one of those people.

The person who has hurt you has actually done you a favor by demonstrating what problems you need to resolve, and you have the opportunity to grow with the punches you are receiving. The more battles you win, the closer you are to the championship that you so desperately seek. The more uncomfortable the situation, the greater need to understand what forces you need to collect and what personal changes you need to make to overcome the conflict. Without the hurt, you wouldn’t care, and there are plenty of people that don’t care. You know some of them, and you usually don’t want to be around those people, nor do you want to become one of them. And if you are one of them, then it is really time to change. Your bitterness will kill you and rob you of the joy of life.

Your hurt, your conflict, your problem and the pain of its resolution, is a gift. It is said in sacred literature,

He who learns from his mistakes is the better for it, and so are those that come in his presence; He who does not learn from his mistakes is forced to repeat it. There is only one failure in life, and that is to give up.

I have been told by some that they cannot see the problem, like not seeing the forest for the trees. Facing the conflict, even if you don’t understand it, will shine light on the darkness and bring you closer to a solution. The greatest problem facing many is that they refuse to even face the conflict, and would rather ignore it out of existence, until one day it explodes in their face when they least expect it.

Face the problem and generate the light.

And the most difficult part of this situation is to face the problem with the same intention that we receive some light to the problem, for it comes to us with compassion. Your close relationship said something that hurt you? Your friend ignoring you? Someone blaming you for something you didn’t do, or meant or said, or for that matter, something you did do? Then face that person with compassion, and be gentle on both yourself and your counterpart in the conflict, while trying to resolve the problem.

Bitter? Angry? You can still face the problem and seek light for both you and your conflict. When you bypass any of the bitterness and/or anger you will find that you really want resolution to the conflict, and you would prefer that both you and your companion are at peace.

Have you given yourself an opportunity to have peace in your heart over the problem you have encountered in the relationship? Have you given your partner or friend the same opportunity to resolve the problem? How often I have encountered someone in a broken marriage or disrupted relationship to make clear they are unapproachable, that their acquaintance will never have an opportunity to resolve the issue because they will not be available, by either phone or in physical or mental presence. If this is your choice, there is no hope for peace. Life just doesn’t work that way. “I don’t want to talk about it,” never solves anything.

Many spiritual and physical Principles that run the universe are mostly unchangeable, as they create the order necessary to live. But Human Life is changeable, and we humans need to accept the opportunities to grow with changes. Never be unchangeable in anything: Learn and adjust your points of view for better ones, in both your beliefs and relationships.

And if the one with whom you need to resolve the conflict is unavailable to you, you need to move on, knowing that you have done the best you can, and nothing else is required until a new door is opened and made available to you to walk through Only you can rest with your own heart and its intent.

Be open and compassionate to what the present has to offer, bury your mistakes in the past, and be willing to bring to a broken relationship your compassion and forgiveness. You just may repair the break, and hearts may be healed.

Dear Dr. Johnson: I’m Worried!

Time to Spring Clean your Life's Ruts

Dear Dr. J: My life seems to have become a long strain of worries and troubles lately. In the words of Roseanne Barr, I am a domestic goddess with a son in school and a  husband who can be very bothersome at times. Between my son’s school problems and my husband’s problems at work, I have become constantly troubled and no doubt very hard to get along with. Can you help me? – Rosalee – N.B.

Dear Rosalee,

I do have some suggestions, especially since you are not alone at being troubled by life and its everyday dread. I hope these suggestions help you:

1. TRY NOT TO BE SO TROUBLED BY CHOICE.

As hard as it may be to accept, we decide through free choice how much we let something trouble us, and often those troubles are of our own making. It is often easier and more natural to step into an emotional cave and wander closer to the greatest darkness.

Stay in the light.

Watch something funny, talk to a friend who is uplifting, find a good cookie and read a good book.

An unfortunate truth is that there is always someone who follows you, and they will either go towards the light or the opposite way of darkness according to your leads, depending on which way you decide to go. The fact is that things are never as bad as we think, and all our emotions are dependent on our perceptions determined by whether we see the glass half empty or half full.

“I’m not going to let this get me down,” is often a good focus, even when things look pretty bleak. Be aware that 90% of what we worry about never actually happens.

2. LOOK FOR A REALISTIC ANSWER.

Just because you shouldn’t let worry overcome you, doesn’t mean you should ignore your problem. There is always something or someone who has a suggested answer. Pick your resources and make certain they are good and worthwhile, whether it be a counselor, friend, pastor, or some other type of outside help. Remember the farther you have gone into your own personal cave, the harder a job the light has to penetrate the darkness.

3. TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR THINKING.

Thoughts of revenge or anger can greatly interfere with your search for a solution to your problem. Promise yourself that you are not going to sit in depression, but that you honestly want a solution that everyone can live with. Take mastership of your reactions, and dont let your mind or your body make the decisions for you. Look instead at your heart and what you know to be right. Discipline yourself to find an answer that will bring you peace.

4. STEP BACK AND GET A GOOD PERSPECTIVE.

Get away from the fray. Gather your perspective of what is happening by being by yourself and gathering silence around you. Leave the emotion of anger or confusion and speak of yourself and others with love. Step back, get your nose out of your troubles and look at them with your spirit. Ask for guidance and wait for answers.

I hope these suggestions help. Let me know how things work out.

Dr. Keith Johnson

Really, All I wanted Was of Roll of Stamps!

USPS roll of stamps ordered online

Some Things Are Better Bought the Old Fashioned Way

With the advance of the Internet life may have exponentially become easier or more convenient for many, for some of us however this is hardly true as the following showcases. I needed a roll of stamps.

That’s how I usually mail  stuff, as I explained to someone who was consulting with me in my office and asked for a bit more time.

I really didn’t have any extra time on that particular day, because unfortunately I had to stop off at the Post Office and pick up some stamps. Well, my client obviously was more computer savvy than I, as he gave me what seemed to be the perfect modern day solution as he directed me to the USPS Website. I can order and even pay for the stamps online and save myself a trip, he said.

Not a bad idea, I thought, as it would certainly save me a trip, gas, time and money. So after he left I went to my computer and looked up the USPS web site, and my client was right: Everything I needed from the post office I could order  online. Quickly I found the listing for a roll of stamps, and put it in the cart, assuming that all I needed to do was go to check out and wait for arrival of the stamps. I was about to put in my  credit card information when an inconvenient yet anticipated phone call came in. It was one that I had to take,  and so I put my ordering needs on hold while I took the call.

Because of irregular things that happen in my life on a regular basis it seems, I didn’t return to  the USPS website for about a week, always aware that I needed to return to my business and order my stamps soon.

Finally I am back at my desk, opening the USPS website again. This time, because the website or my computer intuitively knew that this was not my first time on this site, I was requested to fill out a form  to establish my account with USPS. So I spent 15 minutes giving  my personal information. When finished, I was instructed to log off and log back on with my  newly developed password and user name.

And here things went horribly wrong. I give them what I thought was my newly established user name and they inform me that someone already has that name, and  would I please accept their suggestion of a username (Keitl35). Sounds ok to  me, but my subconscious tells me that I will never spontaneously remember that name, so I asked  for a simpler one. They inform me that for this account I am now registered with this name, and if I want a new name, I have to open a new account. Oh well, in that case we’ll use that one.

By this time I’ve gotten a little confused, so I can’t remember which password I used. So they give me a secret question that only I know the answer to, but the answer that I remember does not fit the question they are supplying me. So I go onto chat and explain I haven’t got the right question for my secret answer.

They tell me to just start a new account and fill out the information again… while I explain once again that all I want is a roll of stamps. They tell me that they’ll be glad  to help me, I just need to take the 15 minutes to fill out the forms.

Once again  I go to the homepage and order a roll of stamps. They ask for my credit card number, but this time when I give them the information, it will not go through. The website apologizes and informs me that they are having trouble, and would I please return later? Because I try to be a patient man, I tried three additional times to register my card, and am told each time that the  card is not acceptable. I close the web site.

But then while I am at my desk working on a personality test for a client this strange feeling wells up inside of me, and a stern voice in my head says: “You’d better make sure your credit card is erased from the USPS website and they don’t charge you for your  order.” (This happened to me once before, when suddenly unrecognized charges appeared on my card, and it took weeks to get them removed).

So once again I go to the website and go on chat, telling the chat operator of my fears that my card could be charged. As always very helpful she explains how to look up my account and check to see if there are any charges. You see my dilemma? No one, including myself, can find my account because it has two different passwords. And really all I wanted is a roll of stamps.

I think I’ll just have go to the post office after all. And I guess I have to watch my CC real close for the next few days.

Over Time You Become What You Think

Life is so much more important than stuff

Life is so much more important than stuff

As the years go by most of us learn that the greatest value in life is not what you have or what you own, but what you have become. Over time you start to realize that it is not what you have, but what you do with what you have that counts. It’s a bit like having your person change its demands to fit the challenges life throws at all of us. As several people in Moore, Oklahoma said in front of the camera after losing their homes to the latest monster tornado: “It doesn’t matter It’s only stuff.”

To get to this awareness it is essential that you work harder on yourself than you work on your job. If you work on your job, you can make a living. If you work on yourself, you can make a life. And then you will automatically own a fortune.

You need to learn from the lessons around you, and you need to hear the stories of the people around you, determining why some stories are good and some are bad, and what you need to do to make your stories good. This can only happen if you let your heart be stirred by words, and these words must help you develop whatever ideas are given to you to make your life a success. The ideas that you carry around in your head sooner or later become behavior. If you harbor the wrong thoughts, you will be carrying out the wrong behavior. If you are harboring good thoughts in your head, you will demonstrate good behavior.

New life needs new ideas. A good life will develop from good ideas. Bad behavior comes from bad ideas, and you determine by the choice of your character what kind of thoughts you are going to hold in your mind and life. If, by your determination, your life needs changing, then your ideas need to change.

One day while in College I lost ten dollars out of my wallet, or I misplaced it, or it was stolen. For two days I was sick about my loss. Today if I lost ten dollars, I wouldn’t be too concerned. What’s the difference? The idea of the importance of ten dollars has changed for me. The importance of an idea can affect how you feel and what you do. If you are harboring a bad idea that is causing you emotional harm, then change its’ importance in your life. Diminish it so it doesn’t affect you.

What ideas are important to you? What do you emphasize in your thinking? Is what you think about, even worry about, as important as you think. Will what you worry about be as important next year, or even six months, or even tomorrow. Can you remember what you worried about yesterday? Is it still cause for worry today?

You are what you think.

Make Some Noise While You’ve Still Got Time

Do not hide your talents from the world

Where Your Talents and the Worlds Needs meet, lies your destiny.

After a long life of shifting through the remnants of brief encounters and long relationships, be it friends, acquaintances, family members, colleagues and the likes, the conclusion is inevitable that there are actually only two types of people: Those who learn from life and pay attention to what it teaches, and those who believe they need to teach life what it needs to know.  Sure there is a third additional segment that lives in  the world of, “I don’t know.”, but for all intents and purposes, they really don’t count.

We all breathe the same air, have the same amount of time in the hours of the  day, experience pain and misery along with pleasure and abundance of joy. And yet for some reason, some people have less time than others and
are rushed, some are more miserable with the same amount of pain, some thrive and some lose with the same amount of opportunities.  Some blame others for everything that happens to them, others accept full responsibility and “take the bull by  the horns”.
Which are you?
No matter where you are or how much money you have in your pocket, all it takes for you to have a new outlook on life is to have a change of mind and develop a new philosophy that works better than the one you presently have. It is up to you to blow your own horn, to make yourself known to the world, to right the wrongs and to treat people decently. No one else is really going to blow your horn, or call your praises, or tell you what a wonderful person you are. Don’t wait for that which will not come anyway.
Blow your horn!  Announce your presence!  Make your talents known and put them to work!