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Two New Support Groups Offered FREE To Local Residents

Are you or someone you know in need of support to be successful in your recovery? Have you or someone you know recently lost a loved one and in need of comfort and support? Not sure where to turn or how to get help?

Beginning January 23, Nassau Alcohol Crime Drug Abatement Coalition (NACDAC) will be offering two new support groups for community members.

“Relapse Prevention” is a FREE support group being offered to individuals in recovery from any type of addiction. The group’s goal is to harbor a safe, confidential environment where one can gain support and skills to be successful in recovery and provide networking opportunities for continued future support.

“Living With Loss” is a FREE support group offered to anyone who has lost a loved one and needs a safe place for comfort and support. The group is designed to assist participants with healing methods, self-awareness exercises and give a sense of connectedness to others.

For more information, please contact Kerrie Albert, NACDAC Director of Prevention Services at (904) 277-3699 or email kerriealbert@nacdac.com.

Vote for Eric Childers

Vote for Eric Childers

I have a very good reason to cast my vote for Eric Childers, and this may come as a complete surprise to many of you, but he is the best big brother a girl could have!!!

eric-and-judieThat’s right, Eric and I are brother and sister, so if you see me waving election signs that say Vote for Eric Childers, now you know just one of the many reasons I am voting for him.

As a big brother, Eric has been my confidante, my protector, and my most trusted friend for ALL of my life. Like most siblings, boy, do I have some great stories from our childhood, too. Oh, and just for the record… he IS older than me.

Eric is accessible, and he studies the issues – taking pride in hearing from YOU on the subjects that are most important to those he wants to represent. He is embedded in our community, a married man, and works a full time job, so his decision to run for public office and “serve” his neighbors was not made lightly. He understands the day to day concerns of working families. He sees the importance of welcoming our tourists, and he listens when you express concerns about growth, infrastructure, and the delicate balance of man v nature.

Having served in the Navy, and having grown up a Military Brat, Eric understands commitment, sacrifice, and pride of country… but most of all, he truly cares about the future of Fernandina Beach, her residents, her business owners, and her visitors.

If you want to see a fun, and very short video endorsement I made when I was in Las Vegas earlier this year… scroll down on my facebook page to October 25th and take a look. If you want to hear a really, really funny story from our childhood… come find me, I’ve got some great ones!

We thank you for your support.

This shameless plug is of my own personal opinion. He did not hold my arm behind my back, give me “noogies”, or make me say, “Uncle” to write this endorsement. We still retain our right to express, so I don’t reckon I need any disclosures typed up in this space.

Fifi’s Fine Resale of Amelia Island is Having a Party

Fifi’s Fine Resale of Amelia Island, Florida, is celebrating 12 years under Jessica Miller’s leadership with a party and a $12.00 “Stuff a Bag Sale” on Saturday, June 11, 2016. A portion of the proceeds from $12.00 stuffed bags will be given to Cedar Haven Transition House for Homeless Women.

Specially marked items throughout the shop can be stuffed into a plastic shopping bag for just $12.00. This sale event coincides with the 12 Year Anniversary of Jessica Miller buying Fifi’s. Treats will be served, and the feeling for giving towards a local charity will leave you feeling oh-so-good!

Fifi’s is open 10:00 am – 5:00 pm on Saturday for the event. Fifi’s is stuffed to the rafters with amazing new items including every day brands like Chico’s, Ann Taylor, J. Crew, Talbots, and Banana Republic.

Cedar Haven is a Transitional House for Homeless Women in the Fernandina Beach Community. It is a Non-Profit organization dedicated to serving women by offering transitional housing and education to improve the quality of life for homeless women without children. Cedar Haven is a project of Women of Power Inc. Cedar Haven opened in March 2011 and provides a 180-day transitional program. In addition to providing housing, classes are offered that will assist residents in becoming self sufficient; improving the quality of their lives as they make a transition back into society. For more information, please call (904) 699-7477.

2016 Katie Ride for Life

2016 Katie Ride for LifeOne of Amelia Island’s premier fundraising events is the Katie Ride for Life. Inspired by the heart-breaking death of a teen aged girl, young Katie Caples’ saved five lives, and over the years has touched countless others because she chose to be an organ donor.

Though she didn’t know it at the time, Katie started a movement that anyone and everyone should register to become an organ donor.

The Katie Caples Foundation inspires others to live, breathe, walk, run, ride, educate and advocate for organ donation. They are committed to increasing the number of registered organ donors and eliminating the wait for the more than 125,000 adults and children in need of a lifesaving organ transplant.

If you are not familiar with the story, please take a moment and meet Katie, and one of the lives she saved:

125,000 adults and children are waiting for an organ transplant. 21 people will die today while they wait, and tomorrow 144 more will be added to this “too-long-of-a-list”. We know those people in dire need of a transplant could be your mother, father, son, daughter, sister, brother or friend. Together, we will do the right thing and end the wait.

So join the movement and help others share life by saying, “Yes!” Become an organ donor, because “yes” saves lives.

The Katie Ride for Life will be held on April 16, 2016, beginning at 7:30 a.m. at the Atlantic Recreation Center on Amelia Island. Expect delays and traffic congestion until 3:00 p.m.

2016 Relay For Life at Main Beach March 5th

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In communities throughout Florida people are gathering together to help fight cancer at a unique event called Relay For Life. Relay is the American Cancer Society’s national signature activity that brings together teams of families and friends from local companies, schools, clubs, churches, and other organizations to walk around the track in relay fashion.

All proceeds raised from this event are used for cancer research, education, prevention and patient services. The five-year relative survival probability for all cancers diagnosed between 1999 and 2006 is 68 percent, up from 50 percent in 1975 to 1977. This survival rate can be increased through more research and greater community awareness of health issues. Relay For Life combines a way to share vital cancer education and programs with community members and a way to raise money to fund more cancer research.

The success began in 1985 when Dr. Gordy Klatt, a Tacoma, Washington surgeon and
American Cancer Society volunteer, ran and walked on a local track for 24 hours, traveling a total of 81 miles and raising $27,000. Since Dr. Klatt’s one-man marathon, thousands of people nationwide have passed the “baton” and raised billions of dollars for Relay For Life’s battle against cancer.

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“Survivor – Let’s Vote Cancer off the Island” is the message of this year’s Relay For Life Fernandina Beach/Yulee, being held March 5, 2016 at Main Beach Park on Amelia Island. The 12-hour event is free and open to the public.

Opening ceremonies begin at 10:00 a.m. with a welcome from Mayor Johnny Miller, and a message of hope from cancer survivor Judie Mackie. The first lap of Relay For Life celebrates cancer survivors. Anyone who has ever been diagnosed with cancer, whether currently undergoing treatment or in remission for 50 years, is invited to participate. Caregivers, and then participating teams, will be invited to the track.

Members from our community are encouraged to continuously walk the track representing how cancer never takes a break. There will be family games, activities, entertainment, and six live bands will perform throughout the event. Themed laps will occur at the top of each hour, and Relay teams will compete in “Tribal Challenges” to earn immunity and of course, bragging rights.

After dusk, the Luminaria Ceremony remembers all of those who battled cancer. Candles surround the track with bags marked with the names of those still fighting, those who won the battle, and those we have lost. This ceremony of light symbolizes our mothers, our fathers, our sisters, our brothers, our sons, our daughters, our friends and our loved ones. The lights remind us of hope, and our shared vision for a cancer-free future. Fernandina Beach Vice Mayor Robin Lentz, and cancer survivor Patti Jubell, will share their emotional stories, and every Relay participant is encouraged to find a way to fight back against cancer, by raising money, making a healthy lifestyle choice or speaking up for cancer patients through advocacy.

ALL proceeds from the day’s activities, as well as vendor’s booths, will be donated to the American Cancer Society.

For more information about Relay For Life Fernandina Beach/Yulee please contact Alexandra Davis at (904) 391-3643.

For information about Relay For Life or about cancer, call toll-free anytime 1-800-227-
2345 or visit the American Cancer Society Web site at www.cancer.org.

Shop with Cops 2015

Shop with Cops 2015Fernandina Beach, FL – Santa Claus is always a big hit with the kids during the Shop with Cops program at Wal-Mart. Pictured above, Kassandra Zuniga appeared to like what she was hearing when she visited with Santa in 2013. The Police Department has recently confirmed that Santa plans to be in town for the event again this year.

The Fernandina Beach Police Department began its very successful Shop with Cops program in 2004 and now serves more than 150 local school children each year, providing the opportunity to shop with a police officer at the Amelia Island Wal-Mart store, while insuring that many of our underprivileged kids experience the joy of Christmas.

This unique program provides an opportunity for children in our community to spend some valuable time interacting with our uniformed police officers in a happy and positive environment. This kind of interaction is an important step in teaching some disaffected kids that police officers are guardians of the young and should be trusted in times of difficulty. We believe that this program has been a powerful relationship building success since its inception.

Donations are collected all year long and every penny donated translates directly to Christmas toys and much needed clothing. Our program participants are selected by local school guidance counselors, who make sure that only the truly needy are given the opportunity to participate in this special program, which was suggested by local resident Don Monahan, who continues to act as our volunteer chair. Please call Don directly to invite him to speak to your church congregation or civic group about the Shop with Cops program. He can be reached at (904)277-2091.

Please consider donating to this very worthwhile community program. The program is administered by the Fernandina Beach Police Foundation, which is controlled by a Board of Directors comprised of Amelia Island residents. The Fernandina Beach Police Foundation is a 501(c)(3) non-profit organization and all donations to the Shop with Cops program may be tax deductible.

Donations may be sent to: Shop with Cops, Fernandina Beach Police Foundation, 1525 Lime Street, Fernandina Beach, FL 32034.

There is no doubt that this program provides some measure of comfort and hope to many of our young people, as well as their parents and guardians. As we notice each year, many of these needy children put others ahead of themselves, demonstrating great compassion for loved ones and understanding for their own social condition. Many pass by traditional toys and games, opting for essential clothing and household items.

The community support has been inspirational over the past decade, while it is my hope that our wonderful community continues to champion this worthy cause for many years to come. This program clearly benefits our community in ways that are difficult to measure.

Our most recent Shop with Cops videos can be found on the Police Foundation website at http://www.fb-pf.org.

Our next event will be held on Thursday, December 10, 2015 at Wal-Mart.

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How to Help the European Refugee Crisis

How to Help the European Refugee CrisisHelp is needed in the European refugee crisis! To assist the refugees presently pouring into Europe and for people in other areas of present crisis, the Pod Yoga Studio is collaborating with a variety of Amelia Island organizations in the Care Kits Project. “Yogapod” Bins have been placed at these organizations’ locations where people are encouraged to put basic (but very specific) hygiene supplies. The bins will be picked up on Thursday, October 15, 2016. Care Kits of the collected supplies will be assembled on Saturday, October 17 and mailed shortly after.

The organizations participating are: Amelia Styling Salon, Centred on Yoga, Community Yoga, Fernandina Beach Branch Library, Fernandina Beach Middle School (904-491-7938), Fernandina Branch of the Unitarian Universalist Church of Jacksonville (904-235-8133), Go Yoga, the Jewish Community of Amelia Island (904-310-6060), New Vision Congregational Church, Pod Yoga, and Prince of Peace Lutheran Church. Google the websites for these groups or call the numbers listed for information on hours and location.

The specific supplies to be collected are: hand towels, wash cloths, wide-toothed combs, 5-15 oz. shampoo, individually wrapped soap bars, individually wrapped toothbrushes, 2-6 oz. toothpaste tubes, adhesive bandages standard size, one-gallon resealable plastic bags, sandwich-sized resealable plastic bags.

Financial donations (checks written out to Heart to Heart International for tax deduction) are welcome!

For more information, or if interested in assembling the Care Kits and/or donating towards the cost of shipping, contact bckayne@yogapod.net of the Pod Yoga Studio or leave a message at 904-548-3224.

The assembled care kits will be shipped to Heart to Heart International, a four star Charity Navigator NGO with a global reach of aid (www.hearttoheart.org).

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Things You Realize When On Vacation

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Allow the experience of a lick on your nose to be pure ecstacy

On one of our daily walks through downtown Charleston a couple of weeks ago, we were welcomed by the shaking tail of a full blooded pit bull sitting next to his owner on a sidewalk bench. This brief but wonderful encounter with Maggie made me somehow think back of the days that the sight of a pit bull in public raised urgency awareness levels to full protection mode usually followed by a frantic search for something that could be used as a defensive weapon. And as with so many things in life you realize that people’s actions are a product of their “promoted” perceptions. Rarely to never are these perceptions the result of actual personal experiences, but almost always have a questionable origin of the multi-layered story-telling of someone who knew someone who’s third cousin’s uncle’s niece had been attacked by a vicious dog…and the government should do something about it!

In a crazy throwback in time it reminded me of the first days I spent on this country’s soil in the summer of 1980, when I came to photograph mega cities for a coffee table book called “METROPOLIS” New York finest “caught” me loaded with equipment taking, a nap in Central Park or entering nightmare neighborhoods in Spanish Harlem, Bedford Stuyvesant, Hells Kitchen or Fort Apache. “You won’t come out alive”, they said. “You’re crazy, you’re playing with your life.”
Seeing Maggie on a touristy street in Charleston, wiggling her tail and smiling at us, reminded me of the friendly welcomes I received in those supposed hell holes. It also reminded me of a story I read a while ago and copied to my desktop for later revisits, whenever I need reconfirmation that the human race still contains positive elements beyond the zombie acceptance of sensationalized crap. I’d like to share that story, credited to either Ashley Gulla or Olivia Maximo here:

WHAT THEY SHOULD HAVE TOLD ME BEFORE I RESCUED MY PIT BULL

They said, “he’s strong, about 67 lbs, and he’s a puller but with some training he’ll be great.”  Okay, I thought.  Easy enough.  But what they should have told me was something entirely different.  What they should have told me was this: This is an adventure. Welcome to the best years of your life.

Where misconceptions, stereotypes and judgments are now personal attacks against not only someone you love dearly but you, yourself.  And how you will feel like it is your personal mission to show the world how his “kind” is completely misunderstood.

Then you will read up on all the facts and statistics about Pit Bulls and realize half of what people believe is completely false or terribly misconstrued.  Like pits having lock-jaw?  False.  Pits are born aggressive.  False.  Pits have stronger jaws than Rottweilers.  False.  Pits don’t make good family pets. FALSE.

Also, in the midst of being accepted into his pack, you will learn what loyalty really means.  You will also know what it feels like to be scared half to death every single time your doorbell rings before explaining to your mailman, “he’s nice, I swear!  Sorry…thanks for the– sorry again.”  Then you both will laugh, well, you will and he will look at you proudly, expecting a treat.

You will also walk with a little extra bounce in your step because this powerful, gentle giant stands beside you.  You will feel a kind of pride you’ve yet to experience because you know you’re not only doing your baby justice but you’re part of the millions who are pleading for the rest of the world to give these amazing creatures a chance.

But sadly, your heart will break every time you hear about a Pit Bull who has landed in the hands of a wrong person or found himself in an awful situation. Whether it was dog fighting or an abusive owner or left tied to a park bench with nothing but a blanket.  Your heart will break because you will come to understand the heart of a Pit Bull.  Your heart will break because you will experience the love they, without question, give and with every tear you cry from hearing these awful stories, you will wish you could end it all.

Then you will feel incredibly grateful.  Because this guy is yours and you are his and that’s something that can’t ever be taken away.  Even if you don’t believe in a God above, this bond will feel like it was magically planned many moons ago, where the stars aligned perfectly and placed you two exactly where you needed to be to find one another.  And you will be so blessed.

You will learn the frustration you feel when he is destroying your kid’s toys or eating food he’s not supposed to or barking when you wish he wouldn’t, fades quickly.  That snuggling has now taken on a whole new meaning called: all over you, all the time, no matter what.  And now you make it a point to never appear to do ANYTHING that could look like you’d be hitting him because seeing him duck his head out of fear hurts.  You will also learn when he’s sticking his big head out your car window to expect 1 of 2 responses – a dirty look or a smile and nod.  You learn you’ll smile in both cases.

Nobody tells you your heart will change.  But it does.  You judge less.  You care more.  You learn how to accept life a heck of a lot better than before.  You learn how to forgive and how to let go and how to live in the moment.

They should have told me I was going to learn how to love better.  That loving this Pit Bull was going to change my whole life.  And that he would make us so so happy!
But chances are I wouldn’t have believed them anyhow.  I guess it was something I had to learn on my own.

Vietman Vet Gets Help with Critical Home Repairs

Vietman Vet Gets Help with Critical Home RepairsFernandina Beach, FL – Partners can make a difference. Late last year, Nassau County Council on Aging (NCCOA) received a request from a Fernandina Beach resident for assistance. Mr. Bob Danker, a Vietnam War veteran, served as a member of a River Gun Boat team. Suffering from ill health, Danker needed assistance on a critical home repairs.

Pictured A volunteer helps paint the eaves of a house belonging to a local Vietnam Veteran. A large team of volunteers gathered at the home which was in disrepair, and worked together to bring the structure back up to code.
PHOTO by Frances Bartelt

NCCOA volunteers, supported by Home Depot’s Grant for Home Repairs for Veterans Outreach, completed the critical repair of his home in late 2014. However, there was much still to accomplish since the home had not been maintained for some time. This is where more local partners got involved.

During a recent tour of NCCOA’s Fernandina Beach Senior Center. C. A. McDonald, a Plant Manager at Rayonier Corporation, asked if two groups he is involved with, could help out. Bart Cormier, a COA volunteer suggested the groups volunteer and help complete the remaining work on Danker’s home.

The Alert Cadets, a father/sons organization, and members from the Redeemer Community Church tackled exterior pressure washing, siding replacement, fixing a leaky roof, demolition material removal, and a complete exterior paint job. Along with the Home Depot grant, Regional Community Church also donated some of the materials for this large home repair project.

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Pictured: Bart Cormier, NCCOA volunteer positioned in the lower right, poses with the entire team of volunteers consisting of members of the Alert Cadets, members from the Redeemer Community Church and others who took time to help out an aging local veteran. The materials for this project were paid for by a Home Depot grant, and the members of the Regional Community Church.
Photo by Frances Bartelt

According to volunteer Bart Cormier, Nassau County is full of neighbors looking to lend a hand.

“There’s no doubt that the hearts of many in Nassau County want to express their love of neighbor for those that need a helping hand. In this case, much good was accomplished and strangers are strangers no more,” he explained.

In a few short weeks, the Danker home has been restored to good order. Thanks to the partnership of NCCOA, Home Depot, Alert Cadets and the Regional Community Church, a significant difference was made in the life of one man and his home. The synergy of this partnership multiplied the individual efforts and lessened the burden for each along the way. The success of this type of informal partnership could be contagious and spread. We hope it does.

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Turn Holiday Aches and Pain into Cheer and Good Will

Turn Holiday Aches and Pain into Cheer and Good WillThe fine folks at Nassau Physical Therapy had some great tips in their December newsletter including the following two articles.

The first one is how to relieve holiday aches and pain, and the second is a list of 12 ways to spread holiday cheer and good will.

How to Relieve Holiday Aches and Pain

Piriformis and Hip Stretch – Seated
By: Kaylee Nelson, DPT
• While sitting in a chair, cross your affected leg on top of the other as shown.
• Next, gently lean forward until a stretch is felt along the crossed leg. Hold for 30 seconds. Repeat 2-3 times.

This could easily be done while wrapping presents while sitting in a chair. It is good for people with the diagnosis of “Sciatica” or even low back pain as people who experience back pain tend to have pain and tightness with this muscle.

In addition, please remember to stand and wrap presents at counter height and not while sitting on the floor.

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12 Days of Holiday Cheer & Good Will

By Domenica Miller

There are many ways you can spread good cheer during the holidays. Here are 12 ideas:

1st Day – Donate toys to children in need.
2nd Day – Visit the sick or elderly.
3rd Day – Donate to animal shelters, pets without homes need love too during Christmas
4th Day – Drop off old clothing, food or blankets to homeless shelters in your area
5th Day – Donate to your favorite charity online.
6th Day – Check out Kiva.org and loan to someone.
7th Day – Bake something and give it to someone in need
8th Day – Call a distant friend or relative that you don’t see often or that you will not see during the holidays.
9th Day – Have a holiday block party with neighbors
10th Day – Perform as many random acts of kindness as you can to strangers.
11th Day – Donate food to a food bank.
12th Day – Send a holiday card to a soldier overseas.

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Celebrity Bag Day at Publix

Celebrity Bag Day at Publix

Celebrity Bag Day at Publix

Relay For Life Fernandina Beach/Yulee team “Paula’s Fighting Pirates” are holding a Celebrity Bag Day fund raiser at Publix on Amelia Island, Saturday, November 22, 2014, from 10:00 am to 2:00 pm. Local celebrities will be bagging your groceries and earning tips for the American Cancer Society.

Nassau County Sheriff Bill Leeper will be defending his title from competitors such as Fernandina Beach Police Chief James Hurley, Dr. Annette Bell, Dr. Joanna Steele, and YMCA Director Jon Dearolf. Who will earn the most tips?

Put together your shopping list and join the fun as these local celebrities lend a helping hand by “bagging for life”.

Relay For Life Fernandina Beach/Yulee is a 12 hour, community celebration taking place in the spring where teams take turns walking a track, relay style, to raise funds to fight cancer while celebrating survivors and remembering those lost to this horrible disease.

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Have you figured out if you are a positive or negative person? 

Take an Honest look at yourself

Take an Honest look at yourself

You know how you can tell by approximation if you are a positive or negative person?  Just look around at the people associating with you regularly and ask yourself, “Are they positive or negative?” When you finish in their company have you spoken highly in anticipation of things to come, or did you spend your time bashing the government, the economy, your job and your boss, your current or ex and your life in general? What is the conclusion? Come on be honest!
Negativity is not your friend!  Negativity will kill you.  And in some cases, although you are physically walking around and breathing, spiritually you are already dead.  That “Voice of Criticism” is always working on your mind and your feelings, telling you about all the things you can’t do, and insisting that you will never be successful, no matter what you try to do.  And there are so many things in your life that you have never ventured to try because you already were a failure in your mind.  Isn’t it time to make that “Voice of Criticism” shut up, and to start making a mental turn to believing in yourself and the great things you can do if you would only try?

A mind focused on positive experience, filled with hope and excitement and passion can do unlimited things, exciting things that help not only you, but those around you. When you speak, you bring hope and inspiration. When people see you, they gather because they feel that you may help them laugh and forget some of their own troubles for the moment. So ask yourself, is that your experience when you get around people you know? Do people seek out your company and advice? Or when you show up, do you miss the smile that they don’t return? Or do they excuse themselves because they have many things to do, and they just don’t want to sit around and have time to talk?

If a person likes your company, they will find time to be around you, no matter what it is they have to do that day.
Many of us carry in our head nothing but junk, and that junk is by definition negative. No matter what the day has in store for us, it is not going to be good enough to make us happy. Have you had so many negative experiences that you no longer think life is meant for you to be happy? There is no man or woman good enough for us, so we will remain single. There is no job that can make us satisfied, so we just go on in a miserable job making an income. And these are the thoughts that control your daily activities.

So what do you do? You have to change your mind! You have to turn your negative thinking into positive thinking, and start making your life count for the good instead of the bad. How do you do that? Well, the first thing you do is take note of how you are really thinking on a daily basis, and what thoughts you are feeding within your subconscious that you act upon during the rest of the day. When you are driving down the street, turn off the car radio for a while and examine what you are really thinking over the sound of the music. When you are taking your morning shower, how are you preparing yourself to face the day? Are you angry, bitter, or are you excited, anxious to get out there? These are the moments when you take charge of your thoughts and feed yourself new ideas.
If a census of your thoughts tells you that you are talking yourself into a world of bitterness, then start talking to yourself in a more positive way. You might even take a piece of paper and write some necessary positive thoughts to start your day: “I am a good person.” “I am important to the world around me.” “I can make a great contribution today.” “I am going to be happy today.” I am going to make someone else happy.” You be the author, for only you can decide what thoughts will help you.

Be your own psychoanalyst: Do my thoughts make me happy? Do my thoughts satisfy my heart? Do I help other people with my thoughts, or am I too self-bitter that I can’t help anyone else? Be honest. Only you know if you need to change your thoughts. Only you know how really satisfied you are with life. If you are sitting around crying over some bad thing that happened to you years, or even months ago, or if you are angry because someone hurt you three weeks ago, these thoughts are probably not helping you feel good during the day, nor are they empowering you to achieve your goals, whatever they may be. And if you are mad at yourself because you are facing some big failure, its time to forgive yourself and go on with your life. You have as much right to be on this earth as anyone else.
You know what changed those thoughts of negativity?

Forgiveness!  Forgive yourself for making mistakes, forgive your friends and family for what you think they have done wrong, and start loving them.  Positive action brings the most positive results, and it’s easier than you think.
So get rid of the junk. Get that job that will make you happy. Make peace with your children. Communicate with that spouse and stop being angry. Get yourself a present. Go on a trip. And most of all, believe in yourself, and help someone else believe in themselves as well.
After all, what’s the worst that could possibly happen?  You could fail, or turn out to be wrong, but haven’t you been there before?  And just possibly this is the time that it will work!