It is not uncommon for Baby Boomers to find themselves on the dating scene for the first time in many years due to divorce or the loss of a partner.
When you think you may be ready to start dating again, you should never turn down a social invitation. Whether it is with friends, business, church or the local Chamber of Commerce, you have to get out of your house or you will never meet anyone new. Dating services are discreet and I personally know several couples, young couples in fact, who met and then married after meeting through a service. Your community may have social nights for single adults, but if bringing a covered dish for an evening of bingo is not your style, you could take up golf, find a new church or join a gym. Ask your grown children to play matchmaker, they likely have friends whose parents are also single. These are all safe places to meet new people.
Once you are ready to show someone you are interested, ask them to lunch, dinner or a movie. It is perfectly fine, though awkward at first, to be a woman and invite a man to join you for lunch. It is even okay to pick up the tab if you are a woman and you did the asking. Odds are, the man won’t let you pay his way, but you are a modern woman, right?
When on your date, be fun and friendly. DO NOT complain about your ex, your kids or your neighbors. No one likes to be around unhappy, whining, complainers! Laugh often and smile! Even if the date is not working out mutually, they may just know your soul mate, so be a pleasant companion.
Now let us turn to the uncomfortabe conversation about sex. People are sexually active well into their 70s, so kissing and petting should come up sooner or later. As we age, our desire for companionship and intimacy does not have to diminish. You need to ask yourself what it is you are seeking in a new relationship. As you well know from previous relationships, they take nurturing and time to develop into something long lasting. You can make your own rules and set your boundaries with great confidence. There is a great benefit to finding a new partner later in life. Now that you are older, you both can afford to have sex for the first time somewhere other than in the back seat of a car!