Men and Advice

I suppose this explains why more women than men write advice columns, as seen in this example from “Dear Mike”.

Lucy Offers Better Advice than Men

Lucy Offers Better Advice than Men

There are many reasons to believe women are more nurturing and understanding. I suppose this explains why more women than men write advice columns, as seen in this example from “Dear Mike”.

Dear Mike,
I hope you can help me here. The other day, I set off for work leaving my husband in the house watching the TV as usual. I hadn’t driven more than a mile down the road when the engine conked out and the car shuddered to a halt. I walked back home to get my husband’s help.

When I got home I couldn’t believe my eyes. He was in our bedroom with the neighbor‚Äôs daughter. I am 32, my husband is 34, and the neighbor’s daughter is 22. We have been married for ten years. When I confronted him, he broke down and admitted that they had been having an affair for the past six months. I told him to stop or I would leave him. He was let go from his job six months ago and he says he has been feeling increasingly depressed and worthless. I love him very much, but ever since I gave him the ultimatum he has become increasingly distant. He won’t go to counseling and I’m afraid I can’t get through to him anymore. Can you please help?

Sincerely,
Sheila

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Dear Sheila:
A car stalling after being driven a short distance can be caused by a variety of faults with the engine. Start by checking that there is no debris in the fuel line. If it is clear, check the vacuum pipes and hoses on the intake manifold and also check all grounding wires. If none of these approaches solves the problem, it could be that the fuel pump itself is faulty, causing low delivery pressure to the injectors.

I hope this helps,
Mike

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7 Comments

  1. walterryan

    OK I'm going to blow the lid off the man vs woman thing. When it comes to advice I think I would rather have a female on the other end. I believe women give more thought and use sound judgement when giving advice. After all we listened to our mother's advice as we were growing up, it worked then so why not now?

  2. Joachim Stiller

    Hell no! I take a man's advice anytime. Mike was very to the point. He dealt with the first question that was asked, which is “my car stalled on my way to work”. What can I do. The rest of the story is drama queen antics.

  3. Joachim Stiller

    The story itself is tragi-comic, but I decidedly disagree with your opinion that women give better advice. Nurturing? My butt. The woman in this scenario is willing to take him back because he plays the martyr and she's a sucker for that? Kick him out and go on with life or accept that he's teaching a younger generation the fine art of sex. Life is for learning.

  4. walterryan

    My point exactly. From a man's point of view the defense shield automatically went up and topics were being put in place to start battle. A women would not be as ready to go to battle as a man. Discussing and using reason may work as well, but most men will not lower themselves to that.
    Thanks for proving my point.

  5. tommylee

    Advice is not a male or female 'ting'… Advice is very subjective, circumstantial, intuitive, morally and religiously tainted and often downright opinionated by doctrine of society.

    “Let's not rock the boat here” is often the most easy way out chosen by columnists that provide “let's ask Queenie advice”.

    I tend to agree with Joachim Stiller that Life is for Learning and that knowledge and wisdom are most certainly not the same.

    In my humble opinion wisdom (and thus advice) is correctly applied knowledge mixed with knowing the circumstances and having an iron fist like grip in understanding the consequences of said advice. You must be able to act like a chess player and now how the endgame is played before making your opening move (advice).

    Quit frankly I know very few female chess players and to my knowledge only 20 hold a Grand Master Title currently with only one (Susan Polgar – Hungary/United States) to have obtained her GM title in the traditional way. In comparison there are currently 1328 Male GrandMasters.

    When asking a friend Grandmaster of mine (Jan Smeets) a long time ago why there where so few Female Grandmasters is answer was quit stunning:

    Women use their intuition which is an emotion equal to flipping a coin. Chess is a mastery of being able to get into your opponents head and understand his/her motives for the moves that lie ahead. Only by understanding the consequences of each move and subsequent counter move to restore balance will lead to a 5 piece endgame.

    Now I'm not stating that only Chess players should be considered good advisers because most of them probably won't be any good at all, but only the mere acknowledgment that when someone gives advice, he or she should know what the consequences are before even ever providing the advice.

  6. Ameliaprivateeye

    I often feel people seek advice as a way to vent and talk about their problems. They find justification in an action they have already determined to take, rather than actually listening to and acting upon advice administered by an outside, though not always objective, party.

  7. Ameliaprivateeye

    I often feel people seek advice as a way to vent and talk about their problems. They find justification in an action they have already determined to take, rather than actually listening to and acting upon advice administered by an outside, though not always objective, party.

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