Have you figured out if you are a positive or negative person? 

Take an Honest look at yourself

Take an Honest look at yourself

You know how you can tell by approximation if you are a positive or negative person?  Just look around at the people associating with you regularly and ask yourself, “Are they positive or negative?” When you finish in their company have you spoken highly in anticipation of things to come, or did you spend your time bashing the government, the economy, your job and your boss, your current or ex and your life in general? What is the conclusion? Come on be honest!
Negativity is not your friend!  Negativity will kill you.  And in some cases, although you are physically walking around and breathing, spiritually you are already dead.  That “Voice of Criticism” is always working on your mind and your feelings, telling you about all the things you can’t do, and insisting that you will never be successful, no matter what you try to do.  And there are so many things in your life that you have never ventured to try because you already were a failure in your mind.  Isn’t it time to make that “Voice of Criticism” shut up, and to start making a mental turn to believing in yourself and the great things you can do if you would only try?

A mind focused on positive experience, filled with hope and excitement and passion can do unlimited things, exciting things that help not only you, but those around you. When you speak, you bring hope and inspiration. When people see you, they gather because they feel that you may help them laugh and forget some of their own troubles for the moment. So ask yourself, is that your experience when you get around people you know? Do people seek out your company and advice? Or when you show up, do you miss the smile that they don’t return? Or do they excuse themselves because they have many things to do, and they just don’t want to sit around and have time to talk?

If a person likes your company, they will find time to be around you, no matter what it is they have to do that day.
Many of us carry in our head nothing but junk, and that junk is by definition negative. No matter what the day has in store for us, it is not going to be good enough to make us happy. Have you had so many negative experiences that you no longer think life is meant for you to be happy? There is no man or woman good enough for us, so we will remain single. There is no job that can make us satisfied, so we just go on in a miserable job making an income. And these are the thoughts that control your daily activities.

So what do you do? You have to change your mind! You have to turn your negative thinking into positive thinking, and start making your life count for the good instead of the bad. How do you do that? Well, the first thing you do is take note of how you are really thinking on a daily basis, and what thoughts you are feeding within your subconscious that you act upon during the rest of the day. When you are driving down the street, turn off the car radio for a while and examine what you are really thinking over the sound of the music. When you are taking your morning shower, how are you preparing yourself to face the day? Are you angry, bitter, or are you excited, anxious to get out there? These are the moments when you take charge of your thoughts and feed yourself new ideas.
If a census of your thoughts tells you that you are talking yourself into a world of bitterness, then start talking to yourself in a more positive way. You might even take a piece of paper and write some necessary positive thoughts to start your day: “I am a good person.” “I am important to the world around me.” “I can make a great contribution today.” “I am going to be happy today.” I am going to make someone else happy.” You be the author, for only you can decide what thoughts will help you.

Be your own psychoanalyst: Do my thoughts make me happy? Do my thoughts satisfy my heart? Do I help other people with my thoughts, or am I too self-bitter that I can’t help anyone else? Be honest. Only you know if you need to change your thoughts. Only you know how really satisfied you are with life. If you are sitting around crying over some bad thing that happened to you years, or even months ago, or if you are angry because someone hurt you three weeks ago, these thoughts are probably not helping you feel good during the day, nor are they empowering you to achieve your goals, whatever they may be. And if you are mad at yourself because you are facing some big failure, its time to forgive yourself and go on with your life. You have as much right to be on this earth as anyone else.
You know what changed those thoughts of negativity?

Forgiveness!  Forgive yourself for making mistakes, forgive your friends and family for what you think they have done wrong, and start loving them.  Positive action brings the most positive results, and it’s easier than you think.
So get rid of the junk. Get that job that will make you happy. Make peace with your children. Communicate with that spouse and stop being angry. Get yourself a present. Go on a trip. And most of all, believe in yourself, and help someone else believe in themselves as well.
After all, what’s the worst that could possibly happen?  You could fail, or turn out to be wrong, but haven’t you been there before?  And just possibly this is the time that it will work!

Dear Dr. Johnson: I’m Worried!

Time to Spring Clean your Life's Ruts

Dear Dr. J: My life seems to have become a long strain of worries and troubles lately. In the words of Roseanne Barr, I am a domestic goddess with a son in school and a  husband who can be very bothersome at times. Between my son’s school problems and my husband’s problems at work, I have become constantly troubled and no doubt very hard to get along with. Can you help me? – Rosalee – N.B.

Dear Rosalee,

I do have some suggestions, especially since you are not alone at being troubled by life and its everyday dread. I hope these suggestions help you:

1. TRY NOT TO BE SO TROUBLED BY CHOICE.

As hard as it may be to accept, we decide through free choice how much we let something trouble us, and often those troubles are of our own making. It is often easier and more natural to step into an emotional cave and wander closer to the greatest darkness.

Stay in the light.

Watch something funny, talk to a friend who is uplifting, find a good cookie and read a good book.

An unfortunate truth is that there is always someone who follows you, and they will either go towards the light or the opposite way of darkness according to your leads, depending on which way you decide to go. The fact is that things are never as bad as we think, and all our emotions are dependent on our perceptions determined by whether we see the glass half empty or half full.

“I’m not going to let this get me down,” is often a good focus, even when things look pretty bleak. Be aware that 90% of what we worry about never actually happens.

2. LOOK FOR A REALISTIC ANSWER.

Just because you shouldn’t let worry overcome you, doesn’t mean you should ignore your problem. There is always something or someone who has a suggested answer. Pick your resources and make certain they are good and worthwhile, whether it be a counselor, friend, pastor, or some other type of outside help. Remember the farther you have gone into your own personal cave, the harder a job the light has to penetrate the darkness.

3. TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR THINKING.

Thoughts of revenge or anger can greatly interfere with your search for a solution to your problem. Promise yourself that you are not going to sit in depression, but that you honestly want a solution that everyone can live with. Take mastership of your reactions, and dont let your mind or your body make the decisions for you. Look instead at your heart and what you know to be right. Discipline yourself to find an answer that will bring you peace.

4. STEP BACK AND GET A GOOD PERSPECTIVE.

Get away from the fray. Gather your perspective of what is happening by being by yourself and gathering silence around you. Leave the emotion of anger or confusion and speak of yourself and others with love. Step back, get your nose out of your troubles and look at them with your spirit. Ask for guidance and wait for answers.

I hope these suggestions help. Let me know how things work out.

Dr. Keith Johnson