After a long conversation I have accepted that Millenials really are not to blame for their instant gratification needs and desires
As I have said before I love a good conversation and a terrific conversation is one that explains to me why certain things in life take certain directions. I do not always have to like the explanation or even agree with them, but just getting answers from the “horse’s mouth”, is often enough to create understanding. And where there is understanding there is hope, rather than polarization of uninformed opinions. For example I may have my spats and controversies with the millenial generation and their “obnoxious” demand for instant gratification, but after a long conversation today I think I have been able to put a profile together of where they come from. So I let them use their own words to explain a few things to my generation.
Why is it that Millennials demand instant gratification??
If you put yourself in our shoes, though, can you blame us? We grew up on technology. I used a computer for the first time in the fourth grade, primarily for computer games, and grew up as the Internet evolved. We are extremely technologically savvy and love exploring the web.
We desire instant gratification in other ways as well:
When we turned 16, we expected to get our license and a car.
When we hear a song we like, we want to download it instantly.
When we took a test or wrote a paper, we wanted results quickly.
When we send an e-mail, we expect a message immediately saying it was sent.
When we call someone, we expect them to pick up.
We live on social media and expect almost instant interaction.
We love smart phones because they allow us to find immediate results for what we want and desire.
So what is it about technology that everyone loves?
Confirmation that an action was received.
The ability to compute things fast.
Since us Millennials grew up on computers and the Internet, and the above four components are major benefits of fast computers, that explains our need for a quick reward from every action. It is almost an innate instinct of ours to receive instant feedback from something we do, not because we are greedy, careless, or selfish, but because we grew up that way. Many people criticize our age cohort because we are this way, but consider how you would respond to things if you grew up experiencing feedback or rewards after everything you did.
The only counter wisdom I can hand to Millenials is the following list of wisdom that only comes with age
ABOUT GROWING OLDER… • Eventually you will reach a point when you stop lying about your age and start bragging about it.
• The older we get, the fewer things seem worth waiting in line for or have instant access to
• Some people try to turn back their odometers. Not me; I want people to know ‘why’ I look this way. I’ve traveled a long way, and many of the roads were not paved when I got on them
• One of the many things no one tells you about aging is that it is such a nice change from being young.
• One must wait until evening to see how splendid the day has been.
• Being young is beautiful, but being old is comfortable and sometimes numbing (Comfortably Numb anyone).
• And the best one: If you don’t learn to laugh at trouble, you won’t have anything to laugh at when you are old.