Matching Right Decisions with Your Goals in Life

When you find your talent and your life's objectives, make sure to match your decisions on how to get there accordingly.

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There is nothing fair about life, least of all our ability to match up long term decisions with our conscious goals in life. Even if our goals and objective are clearcut, life throws a lot of curve balls at our ability to meet the objectives. It is therefore a good thing that life usually gives second chances, and third and fourth; but only after you have figured out what you want your life to be. Setting goals and making the decisions to get you there is a bit like trying to hit a moving target from a moving vehicle, many variables that influence the outcome.

Maybe that’s why Thomas Jefferson said: “There isn’t anything we do well until we do it many times over.

We all make mistakes. Edison made 1001 attempts by his own counting before the light bulb became his invention. Thank God he didn’t give up. Walt Disney declared bankruptcy more than once. Babe Ruth struck out more times than he made home runs. And you too will fail. But the secret to a successful life is forgiving yourself and to keep trying as you arm yourself with more experience.

Hurt? Frustrated? Mad at life, and the people you encounter, and can’t figure out why? Are you struggling with problems from which you cannot seem to free yourself? One of the greatest problems we face today is the ability to make clear decisions. And unclear decisions can literally drive you crazy, or so it would seem. But you may be surprised: These mistakes could be blessings in disguise.

If you cannot make a successful decision, then every aspect of your behavior is affected. Emotionally, you are hurting inside and not at all aware of how to stop that inner storm. Outside, you attempt to seem like everything is ok, and you are stable and calm, making your inner storm even greater, because you are living your own personal lie. Before we even begin the decision process, you have to be aware of who you are and where you are going. Millions of people have no idea who they are or why they are here. So many of us wander in mental oblivion, making wrong decisions and watching our world crumble before our eyes, and not even knowing why. A simple examination of who you are and why you are making wrong decisions could turn this troubling trend around in no time, and sometimes the solution is no further than a simple change of your mind.

Before you even begin to wrestle with the process of making successful decisions, you need to understand your goals. What do you want to accomplish? Where are you trying to go? It is your goal that will determine your behavior, and if your goal is wrong, is it possible that you need to change your goal? If your goal is to rob a bank, you will spend a lot of time at that bank studying the activity so you know how to rob it. If your desire is to get a college degree, you will spend a lot of time at the college getting the credits that make it possible to get your degree. If your goal is to get a significant other, you will spend time getting to know the person in which you find an interest. Whatever your goal determines your behavior. So, is your behavior satisfying, or are you living in unrest inside yourself? Maybe you need to examine your goals and see where it puts you during the day.

You must match your goals to the decisions you are making, determining first if your goal is worthwhile, and then why there are problems that need decisions because of the activity that is bringing you to your goals. And now you are ready to deal with the problem by going through the decision process. Keep in mind that the strongest determination should be the satisfaction you are getting out of your decisions.

Expert decision makers can go through this process quickly and solve many problems, both theirs and others, and they become known for their wisdom. Too many people rely on impulse or intuition to make their decisions, which ultimately causes us to experience divorce, or delinquency, or war. And many besides just the decision makers live with the consequences. If we walk before we run, if we slow ourselves down to determine the good and bad of what we are about to do, and why we are about to do it, then we can greatly improve our activity and the quality of our life. Now you are ready to begin the Decision-making Process.

What do you want to do, and why is it causing you problems? Why is there a decision necessary, and what methods are you going to take to get there? Do you want a significant other? Do you want more romance? Do you want a close friendship, or more social life? Are you unhappy with your job? Would a raise solve that problem, and if you determine that such is the case, what are you doing to make certain you deserve a raise? Are you using your talents, and why or why not? Where is your passion? Where are you unhappy and why do you need to make a decision in the first place? These basic questions are all decisions that must be made in the midst of problems that you face, and if you are not asking these questions, you are riding on your impulse alone, and though that may work sometimes, it will more often make you perplexed and frustrated. There are many ways to define a problem that you probably have not ventured, and the more specific you become about the problem, the more accurate you will be in making a proper decision to eliminate the problem.

Experience has probably already told you that there is always more than one way to solve a problem, and not all of these routes are right or healthy. If you are poor, there are many ways that you can try to get rich, but some of the decisions many people make to get their newfound money are neither healthy nor morally right. And one of the greatest ways to help you make a decision is to study your own passions and desires, and to understand where your talents want to take you. If you follow your passion, you will be doing what you want, and what your own life is saying to your psyche. College Students that come to me wanting to know what College Major they should study to get a degree always hear me ask the most important question: “What do your talents tell you about yourself?” If you are poor in math, you shouldn’t be an accountant. If you have an excellent singing voice, and you enjoy singing, you should consider making a living with your talent, whatever it is.

Are you making a proper choice that will guide your life because you are educated in your possible solutions, or are you just taking a guess and a gamble and seeing what happens? If I ask you, “What are your talents?” do you have an educated answer? If there is a career that you want to pursue, do you know what education is required so that you can get that career? If as a parent you are having trouble raising your child, have you ever gone to a seminar on Parent-training skills? Are you aware of the education available to help you become a better parent? These solutions need to be researched. If your not doing your homework, you’re going to fail the test of life.

And just because you have done the research, you still have to supply the input as to what is better or worse for the decision-making process. You must honestly ask questions objectively and see where your research takes you. Maybe you have a talent for math, but you still hate the idea of being an accountant. You have to pay attention to yourself and the advantages as well as the disadvantage to make your decisions.

There comes a time when the research and questioning stops, you have to get off the fence and make a decision. Let’s suppose that you want to make a decision on what kind of career to pursue. These four questions should be answered in your heart and mind, and then a choice needs to be made:

a) Can this career choice give me financial security?
b) Will this career give me personal fulfillment?
c) Is this career utilizing my special talent?
d) Does this career meet most of my needs?

If the answer is yes to ALL of these questions, you may be on the path to finding a worthwhile career. You can also ask these questions concerning your search for a significant other, if you change certain key words. You can also change the key words to ask questions about raising your child. See the difference between “going with your gut” and making an educated decision?

Sometimes a “best choice” is temporary, depending on the circumstances, and that means that the choice will only work for a period of time. There are very few permanent decisions. In fact, believing that a decision is permanent is usually fatal. Getting married and assuming marriage is going to be permanent no matter what is almost always fatal. We can lose it if we don’t make the decision to refresh our marriage every day. Every new day of our job needs to be refreshing, and any relationship without fresh decisions is almost always fatal.

There are short term goals and long term goals, and we must identify which is which, and how each applies to our situation, or situations, as the case may be. Each plan, each decision, is simply a starting point for living right, for making proper decisions, for making your life what you want it to be.

Be creative: Search your options and make a decision. Change them as they need to be refreshed, and learn to live happy and in the wisdom of making right and proper decisions.

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